It came together clear as a bell this morning. All my past was passified in that one moment. All the mistakes I’ve made, all the trials I’ve had… it was my attempt to find the happiness each of us is destined to find. Just like in the movie, Pursuit of Happyness with Will Smith – we’re able to endure extreme hardship once we can acknowledge what makes us happy and what doesn’t. I realized happiness is the criteria for knowing when we’re in the flow of our own destiny. In past relationships and situations I’ve ignored or denied whatever it was that was not making me happy (I wanted to believe I had reached my destination).
Yet because I’ve had the grace and good fortune to finally reach my happiness destination in my couple for example, it makes all my previous attempts worthwhile. Those past relationships are now ‘all good’; I no longer have to hold any remorse or grudge. I can now embrace the whole of my life.
As a bonus, I’ve learned something of value from each person I encountered along the way, the entire process has enriched my life. Plus I won’t ever have to learn those hard lessons again, and I’m happy beyond measure. I’m with the person I was attempting to find all that time.
It’s the same in the workplace. It doesn’t have to be perfect, however the moment when something in the situation makes me profoundly unhappy… it’s time to trust that if I move on I will be in my flow again. For example, I was helping a friend of a friend out with their business and because I wanted to believe that I was in the right situation, I disregarded my abhorance of the high volume of ‘microwaved’ food items they were (and therefore I was) serving in their coffee shop. Only once I started experiencing the negative effects of microwave leakage (as it turns out the microwave they were using was several years older than the two year limit for protecting operators from door leakage), was I able to face the fact that I was not happy. The thing that helped make that leap was recollecting the axiom “You only have your body”.